The similarities and differences between family education and school education
Same point:
1. The educational
objects are the same: all are minors who are curious about the world
but have a little knowledge.
2. The purpose of education
is the same: they all hope to train them into healthy and excellent pillars.
1. Families emphasize individual education, and schools emphasize overall education
Both have advantages and
disadvantages and can complement each other. Family education can better
cultivate their personality development, while school education is
conducive to discipline and honor. Therefore, based on the above reasons,
parents and teachers will have many different considerations and performances:
if parents see their children's grades decline, they are very anxious, and
although the teacher will do education work for students whose
grades have fallen, he pays more attention to the overall grades of the class
The situation, because in any class, there is a decline in performance, and
there is also a rise in performance. The key is which aspect is the main body.
It can also be compared to the patient being
anxious and worried, but the doctor is not in a hurry. Another example is that
the parents think that the child should study well. As for when to study, when
to sleep, when to play, what hairstyle, or what clothes to wear, it doesn’t
matter. However, the teacher must strengthen the overall class style and style
of study. , Playing, dyeing hair, weird hair, fancy clothes, etc. In
schools, teachers and teachers strictly forbid it because it will have
a bad influence on the whole, and lead in the wrong direction. So the teacher’s
favorite saying is: if all are like He is the same..., what will happen, the
key is in which direction "his" actions will lead.
2. Parents are emotional and teachers are rational
It is not the difference
in people, but the difference in roles. Teachers treat their children more out
of the feelings of their parents for their children, and to students more out
of professional rationality. For example, teachers are patient and meticulous
when lecturing to students. Some students have to repeat it several times. He
is also not annoying, but with a smile on his face, and when he tells his
children, he will soon be annoyed when he sees that he can't learn or doesn't
study seriously after a few times, and he will even beat the child. So I have
seen many teachers arrange their children in other classes and study. Another
example, snacks...
I saw my niece (two years
old) slipping while playing in the water. I watched her from the side and
encouraged her to stand up by herself, saying that she is a strong child, she
did not cry, and she stood up hard and succeeded. Now, I was about to encourage
her and praise her. Her grandma saw it, and ran over, hugged and kissed again,
"Baby, did it hurt if I fell. I will never deny her grandma’s love, but it
is indeed not rational. In my education career, I love my children
as much as her grandma, but do not talk about methods. I have seen many parents
who are not rational, and I am from this.
Many parents don’t understand teachers. They
always think that “children who are not their own don’t know how to feel bad.”
They blame the teachers. Of course, some teachers, because they are
misunderstood, they simply abandon their own educational principles
and follow their parents to deal with their problems. . Therefore, in many
successful cases of education, whether the family is rich or poor, or the parents’
knowledge level, there is one thing in common: parents’ love for their children
is rational. They set an example in front of their children, be strict with
each other, be strict with them, and have clear rewards and punishments. When
they see children undergoing hardship or punishment, their hearts are painful,
but at the same time their hearts have been saying: "Child, hold on!"
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3. The love of parents is great, and the love of teachers is selfless
This sentence can also be
understood like this: Teachers’ love for students is not as great as their
parents, but parents’ love is selfish. For example: every time you get to the
ranks, parents are most concerned about: sit in the front, sit in the middle,
sit at the same table, see the front clearly, hear accurately, and don’t dare
to be confused and pay attention under the teacher’s eyes. Be more focused,
look at the blackboard behind, listen to the class more laboriously, run away
from the teacher, be far away from the teacher, and disorderly. In order to sit
in the "ideal" seat, some parents will even ask for a treat. But
comrades, have you ever thought about it? The seats in the classroom are
limited and fixed. If you sit in the middle of the room, someone needs to sit
in the back. While you get these conveniences, your child’s classmates and
friends will lose these conveniences.
So teachers usually do it after a while It is
necessary to adjust the seat once and make appropriate adjustments based on
various factors, but parents all hope that their children will always sit in a
"good" position. As a competent teacher, you have to hold all the
students in your heart, but the time and energy of the teacher are limited, so
the time and attention to each student is even more limited. This is what I
call "no parents Love is great", but the focus of the teacher's work
is to establish and gradually improve a class with a positive, strong learning
style, unity and harmony, and use the power of the collective to influence and
educate each student.
4.
Teachers pay more attention to current education, and parents need to pay more
attention to long-term education
This is also determined
by the actual situation. Children have to stay with their parents for a
lifetime, and only with the teacher for one or two years, or at most six years.
Of course, teachers must also focus on the child’s life in educating children.
However, due to the decisive influence of current examination system and
teacher evaluation system, every teacher More attention is paid to the current
situation of the child, that is, how the students have followed me in the past
two years. As for how to follow other teachers in the future, it seems to be
beyond reach. If individual teachers are more utilitarian, there will even be
some methods of pulling seedlings to promote growth and killing chickens and
eggs. , The key is that this approach has been recognized by most parents (most
parents still don’t know the truth and don’t know the rules and methods of education
in detail.
For example, some teachers or parents are very
demanding on their children's learning, and even use methods of forcing,
punishing, scolding, and hurting their self-esteem to improve their grades.
This will achieve temporary good grades, but will cause great negative effects:
tired of learning, Rebellious. As children grow older, their self-esteem and
rebelliousness increase, and the negative effects become more and more obvious.
Once they become prominent, their grades will plummet. This is why some
children have good grades in elementary school, have dropped
significantly in junior high school, or have dropped in high
school. And many parents who don't know the cause completely blame the
responsible teacher. You must know that while your child's grades are
declining, many of his classmates are rising. What I want to say is that schools
and teachers have a lot of helplessness in this regard (I don’t think a teacher
will calmly say that your child’s grades have fallen, but it’s good for his
future growth. Even if it’s true, it can’t make people feel better. Convinced),
but your parents are not subject to any restrictions.
You must have a set of educational
concepts and methods that are beneficial to him throughout his life.
Teachers’ education to students is relay-based, while parents’ education
to their children is consistent, and more emphasis should be placed on
children. The comprehensive, long-term, and healthy development of human beings
should not only hurt their self-esteem for the sake of improving, and
discourage their positive interest in other beneficial things in life. Let him
realize your love for him, instead of letting him feel that you only love his
achievements; let him realize that you are strict with him, instead of letting
him feel that you hate him; let him realize yours Believe in your words,
instead of letting him think you are "perfunctory" him;
Summary: mutual trust, close cooperation, and full cooperation
Mutual trust is a
prerequisite. Just like when you go to a hospital, you must trust your
receiving doctor. Although you have not dealt with him before, although he may
not be able to cure your illness, you must believe that your hospital is indeed
beneficial to you. ; Another example is if you take a car to travel, you must
trust your driver. Although you don’t know him, although there may be accidents
in his car, you must trust him. Otherwise, if you don’t trust the driver from
the beginning, you must be concerned Don't worry, will your travel be happy? By
the same token, I also hope that parents can fully trust teachers, although
some teachers.
